Question 1

What does the BDSM category cover?

Accepted Answer

It covers providers who advertise professional BDSM and kink services — including professional Dominants, submissives and switches. Each provider describes their own practice, experience and the activities they do and do not offer. Some work from dedicated premises, others travel or offer online sessions. The category is a filter over the directory: it groups adverts by what the provider says they offer, so the descriptions are theirs rather than ours.

Question 2

How do I find a provider who offers a specific practice?

Accepted Answer

Use the category and location filters to narrow the directory, then read individual listings. Providers who advertise here generally set out their specialisms, their experience level, whether they welcome people new to BDSM, session lengths, and any activities they will not undertake. Because these details are written by each provider rather than standardised by us, the listing is the authoritative source for what any given provider offers.

Question 3

Are providers in this category verified?

Accepted Answer

Verification on UrLittleSecret is identity verification, and it works the same way in every category: a government-issued photo ID and a selfie, checked by our team, confirming identity and that the provider is over 18. It is not a check of training, qualifications, insurance or experience, and we do not assess or endorse anyone's practice. Claims a provider makes about their experience are their own.

Question 4

What does the verified badge mean?

Accepted Answer

A verified badge means the provider has completed identity verification with us: a government-issued photo ID and a selfie, checked by our team. It confirms that the person is who they say they are and that they are over 18. It is not an endorsement, and it says nothing about the services described in their listing. Providers who have not completed verification do not carry the badge, and you can filter to show verified profiles only.

Question 5

How do I contact a provider?

Accepted Answer

Each BDSM listing shows the contact methods that provider accepts — typically a phone number, email, or their own website and social links. Contact goes directly to them. UrLittleSecret is an advertising platform: we do not make introductions, arrange or manage meetings, take bookings, or pass messages between users. Anything agreed is between you and the provider.

Question 6

How do I report a listing?

Accepted Answer

Listings carry a report option. You can flag impersonation, offensive content, scams, non-consensual imagery, or a safety concern — including a concern that someone may be underage or may not be acting freely. Reports can be submitted without an account and without giving your name. We review them, and reports raising a risk to a person are prioritised and escalated to the relevant authorities where appropriate. Our safety page sets out what happens after a report and lists independent help lines.

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